About Emma

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EMMA MCNAIRY

Sexual Empowerment Coach & Pleasure Advocate & Gottman Method Relationship Counselor

Emma specializes in helping others feel free to express, understand, and embody their desires and truths from a place of non-judgment and sex-positivity while cultivating heartfelt authentic intimacy and security.

 

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Emma McNairy (she/her/they/their) is a Sexual Empowerment Coach & Pleasure Activist, Relationship Coach, author, opera singer, voice teacher. She specializes in helping others feel free to express, understand, and embody their desires and truths from a place of non-judgment and sex-positivity. Emma can help you discover your authentic path of pleasure and joy through increased recognition and self-awareness, goals, exercises, and compassionate, informed listening and conversation.

“I believe that sexuality is intrinsic to our lives and to our overall health and well-being. If we don’t pay attention to it, or push it into a little corner of our brain, or carry shame around it, we inevitably are pushing a deep part of our being and spirit to the side. Living life sex-positively in a sex-negative world can be tricky, but I believe by learning good communication skills, breaking down feelings of shame, unpacking narratives that no longer serve us, and implementing boundaries that feel truthful and empowering, we can learn to enjoy life to its fullest.”

-Emma McNairy, Pleasure Advocate, Couples Counselor and Sexuality & Intimacy Coach

HOW CAN SEXUAL EMPOWERMENT COACHING HELP YOU?

The main goal of Sexual Empowerment Coaching is to be a positive and accepting figure in people’s lives, by helping them:

· Tune into their intuition

· Create more body and breath awareness

· Differentiate what is Empowering vs. Disempowering

· Guide them deeper into their personal and intentional thought processes around sexuality.

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EMMA SPECIALIZES IN:

  • Healthy Sexuality and Sexual Functioning for LGBTQ+ Folks

  • Couples and Partnership & Sexuality Counseling

  • Individual Sexuality & Intimacy Coaching

  • Self-Esteem around Sex and Communicating Needs

  • Personal spiritual growth within the realms of BDSM and sexuality

  • General Sexuality and Intimacy Issues

  • Issues around Sexual Abuse & Sexual Trauma

  • Trans, Femme, LGBTQ and Pansexual Sexuality and Intimacy Issues

  • Polyamory, Non Monogamy, and Open Relationship Issues

  • Kink, BDSM, and LGBTQAI+ relationship needs

  • Work with Sexual Narcissism and Sexual Power Dynamics

  • Integration of Experiences around Spiritual and Sexual Explorations

  • Beginning exploration of personal sexuality, how to talk with a parter about sex and desires, and identify your own boundaries and needs.

  • Learning to improve self-esteem and bodily awarenss

  • Blocks to self pleasure

  • Self-Love and Embodied Sexuality

  • How to create a space of Radically Intimate Sex with Self and Others

  • Heal from body and gender dysphoria through empowered and embodied sexuality

  • Cultivate awareness, vocabulary and expression of one’s sexual, emotional and relationship needs and boundaries

  • How to Discuss and Practice Safer Sex (Emotionally and Physically) and Intimacy

  • Developing and Deepening Emotional and Sexual Intelligence

  • Turning up the SPARK and FIRE in your own sexuality and with Partner(s).

  • Collaborative Goals for your own Embodied and Empowered Sexuality

  • Having more access to pleasure

  • Break negative patterns in your relationships

  • Improve communication and intimacy.

  • Holding space for you to explore, while gently supporting you in identifying and meeting your goals.

  • Developing the freedom to express your authentic self

  • Recognizing barriers to romantic and or sexual connection & love and removing them

  • Finding your voice and becoming freer to speak your mind and desires

  • Connecting and/or reconnecting to your sexual and / or creative self

  • Building self-esteem

  • Feeling less isolated and building community

  • Learning how to have a voice in sex and removing psychological blocks, such as goals around talking about sex, talking “dirty” (or hot), setting boundaries, & exploring and owning your own fantasies and needs (this is accomplished by working on the blocks and goals and then assigning exercises for you to do on your own or with a partner).

    HELPING OTHERS TO DEMYSTIFY PLEASURE IN THEIR LIVES HAS BEEN A LIFE-LONG JOURNEY FOR EMMA, AS WELL AS A DEEP EXPLORATION FOR HERSELF.

For close to the last fifteen years, people have sought Emma’s wisdom and advice and finding her, a safe, understanding presence to confide in regarding their sexuality and relationships. Now a professional opera singer based in Germany & San Francisco, with an international career, Emma combines her vast life experiences and knowledge around creativity, gender and sexuality, along with tools she has learned as a performing artist, into a powerful and healing blend of holistic coaching for individuals and partners. 

We need positive role models as well as diverse positive messages, inclusive images of empowered and healthy sexuality and relationships. Without this support, we often internalize shame and /or find navigating these types of life issues difficult and confusing. Sexual Empowerment Coaching can help you heal shame and increase sensual and sexual positivity and pleasure!

“By exploring and unpacking myths and expectations surrounding sexuality, gender, and relationships, we may be able create a new precedent of care for our communities, partnerships, families, and future generations.”

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SEXUAL EMPOWERMENT & INTIMACY COACHING MAY UNCOVER POSSIBILITIES YOU HAVE NOT YET EXPLORED; OUR WORK CAN HELP INCORPORATE THIS NEW AWARENESS INTO YOUR BODY, MIND, COMMUNICATION STYLE, AND RELATIONSHIPS.

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Emma is especially passionate and knowledgeable in helping people navigate kink and BDSM, polyamory and non-monogamous relationships, as well as issues dealing with sexual trauma. She is trauma informed, sex work positive, and of course, kink aware and supportive of non-traditional relationship configurations, such as non-monogamy. She also helps people explore all aspects of sexuality, from those just beginning to name desires with a partner or themselves, to those who want more specific support. She also works with clients who are dealing with Trans and Queer relationship dynamics, sexuality and social impact.

Sexual Empowerment Coaching is about empowering people to connect in their own lives to their own sexuality and with partners in a healthy, embodied, intentional and aware space.

WHY EMMA IS IMPASSIONED ABOUT ASSISTING PEOPLE BECOME FULLY EMPOWERED IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS AND SEXUALITY:

“I have done my own healing work in relationships and sexuality. I am grateful to assist others in living their authentic expressions of self in their personal lives and relationships. I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse, intimate partner violence, and gendered violence. I bring an understanding of social justice, sex-positive feminism, queer politics, and acute awareness around transgender issues, thanks to my training under expert sexologists in the field, as well as personal experience, and from many years of living in and loving my chosen communities.”

Living her most empowered life includes collaborating with others to not only create amazing art and music, but also to live aligned in healing, community, activism, and education. Emma believes that by living more truthful and shame-free lives, we come closer to our highest selves, go deeper into our relationships, and bring more baseline pleasure and confidence to everything and everyone we touch.

“Part of my greatest joy is helping people recover from shameful narratives and expectations around sexuality and gender, so that more positivity and bliss may flourish in their lives.”

-Emma McNairy, Sexuality & Intimacy Coach

She is grateful to her prolific sexology mentors, and teachers, such as Dr. Carol Queen, Dr. Robert Lawrence, Dr. Annie Sprinkle, and Dr. Elizabeth Stephens for supporting her development as a Sexual Empowerment Coach and as a sexually empowered person. She is also trained in Gottman Couples Counseling and is working towards her certification.

Emma is also a dedicated yoga practitioner and meditator of 14 years, training mainly in Anusara Yoga and Neelakantha Meditation, both tantric traditions. She believes that sexuality is an integral part of spirituality and that spirituality can deepen our connection to our sexuality. She is thankful for the blessing of the diversity of her experiences, as she gets to live between many realities and communities, all while finding beauty, healing, and truth in each part of her life. With this wisdom, she has supported many people understand, explore and heal their own relationship to their unique sexuality and pleasure.

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PLEASE NOTE:

COACHING AND SEX THERAPY DOES NOT EVER INVOLVE SEXUAL CONTACT OR SEXUAL ENERGETIC EXCHANGE BETWEEN THE PRACTITIONER AND THE CLIENT.

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